Image: 29/52 choice paralysis by Lauren Macdonald
Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant. ~Anthony Robbins
When we are children we are at the whim of our parents and the world we have little choice what happens to us, we are beholden to them. Many people carry this into adulthood, a belief that they do not have any responsibility or choice of what happens to them in their lives. This week we will be talking about how the power of choice can empower you and set you free:
1) Your choices are what shape your life.
Many people have a hard time with this truth. Frequently I see in people whom have been hurt in their childhood do not see this as the case. Every action we take in our lives is our responsibility and a choice that we have made. We can make the choice to engage in something that is healthy and supportive for us or in something that is damaging to us.
Sometimes patterns are engrained in our brains so it is difficult for us to make better choices. If you are having difficulty with this there is help for you in a support group or with a mental health professional. You can contact 211 in the Los Angeles Area to get help with this. Each sentient being deserves a life that supports them and gives them joy. Take the time to envision and nurture a life that you love.
2) There are no wrong decisions.
I have also worked with clients that have difficulty with making decisions because they are paralyzed by, “But what if I make a wrong decision”. This fear resides in our mammalian brain which houses our need for survival, this part of our brain tells us when we are making mistakes and it is the part that worries. It is trying to keep us from expiring and dying. Thank the part of the brain that keeps us safe (it has helped us up to this point) and pause before you make a choice. Breathe, connect with yourself and not your fear. Use the acupressure point GB14 to clear away your negative thoughts.
“The problem, simply put, is that we cannot choose everything simultaneously. So we live in danger of becoming paralyzed by indecision, terrified that every choice might be the wrong choice.”~ Elizabeth Gilbert
If a choice does go awry, try to view life from an equanimous perspective. In life we have choices and we may possibly make one that is painful or harmful to us. But that is okay this is part of being human. It is our perception of making a mistake that drags us down. Forgive yourself for your decisions and try seeing the lesson in your choice.
3) Your choices are no one else’s fault.
This truth is a tough pill to swallow. Taking responsibility and accountability for ones own life and choice is a part of becoming a functional adult. If someone is hurt in their childhood they may be holding onto the conscious or unconscious belief that they are not responsible for their actions and others are to blame. When someone interacts this way in their life, they hurt themselves and the relationships around them. Taking accountability in one’s life is necessary to grow and change as a person. If one chooses not to do this they are destined to stay stuck. If one desires to make this change, one must be willing to admit their faults, be vulnerable and ask for help.
“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” – Robert Anthony
4) Making decisions empowers you.
When we work toward what we believe in by living in our morals and values we feel good. Decision making is important because it keeps us out of the victim mentality. It helps us to see that we have the ability to show up and be accountable. Making decisions to improves your self concept. It leads towards change and attaining goals which helps in making us feel competent and more satisfied in our lives.
“I’ve learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom – how great is that? “
~Soledad O’Brien
5) Decisions help us to move forward in our lives.
When we stop being in fear and start making choices we accomplish things and begin to live instead of being stuck. The power of decisions and choice give us the ability to live the life that we are meant to. Choosing to not listen to fear we have possibilities. Everyone is capable of making good decisions, one just has to breathe and connect with your intuition. Believe in your self and see what you are capable of. Allow yourself to connect with your source so that you can begin to live the life that you have always wanted to.
What are you experiences with making choices? How do you struggle? Comment below or feel free to contact me.
May you have a week full of joy and blessings.
Best,
