I recently had a coworker say to me, “Drama just seems to follow me around. I don’t want to be a part of it, but it flocks to me. I am tired of being drained by it.” We talked some more and what we figured out is that she was addicted to fixing situations, that the drama made her feel …
The art of learning to say no
No is a complete sentence. ~Anonymous Do you say “yes” to things before thinking about it and then end up resenting that you made that decision or totally flaking, because you have spread yourself too thin? If you have any issues with people pleasing, being overly scheduled or drawing boundaries like many of us do, this article is for you. …
How to Stop Being a Perfectionist
So you have admitted that you have problems with being a perfectionist, Congrats! You are on your way to recovering from this crippling way of coping in the world. How do I know about being a perfectionist? Because personally I am a recovering from perfectionism. I come from a long line of perfectionists but I realized that living this way was …
The Dangers of Denial
“Denial is not just a river in egypt.” ~ Mark Twain Okay, now that I have that kitschy quote out of the way lets get the 411 about denial: Denial it is a defense mechanism that is close cousins with repression. It keeps one safe and unaware of what is actually going on in our life. The wonderful thing about denial is …
3 tips to use acceptance in your life
Lately, I have been noticing that many people find living in denial, easier and more comfortable than being in acceptance. The problem with denial is it keeps you stuck in the same holding pattern that you have been experiencing for years. So the the only way to change; is to gain awareness around the thing that you have been denying, accept …
Self compassion vs. Self Esteem
For years when people have had issues with feeling good about themselves, the psychological and spiritual community talked about how people need more self-esteem. There was talk of doing esteem-able acts in order to build self-esteem, ie. volunteering, being of service and doing things for the greater good. Doing these things will build a better self concept for those that …
Gratitude your new Anti-Depressant..
I know your probably sick and tired of hearing about how great gratitude is. And it seems so much easier to just continue to with the status quo. But really how are happy are you presently? Take a minute to think about that… So you may say well I am grateful for my life, it just harder when things don’t …
Confused about something? Three tips to gain clarity…
Truth lies within ourselves: it takes no rise from outward things, whatever you may believe. There is an inmost center in us all, where truth abides in fullness and to Know rather consists in opening out a way whence the imprisoned splendor may escape than in effecting entry for light supposed to be without. — Robert Browning Are you having …
A New Year, A New You? Time to set intentions
A new year, time to set intentions The journey of a thousand miles begins with one single step ~ Lao-tse So here it is 2016. We survived the the end of the mayan calendar, we are now living in the aquarian age. A shift in our consciousness was supposed to occur, are feeling the shift? Maybe you are and you’re …
Healing Power of Art Making
Creating art activates our pleasure center in our brain releasing dopamine causing an individual to relax, smile and take a deep breath. But maybe you find doing art stressful because you are not good at it. I think that most people believe that they are bad at art due to when they were younger, adults told them they were bad …
