Life is one big transition. ~Willie Stargell Transition and change are the one constant in our lives. Things come and go. The only thing we can do about life is to embrace where we are today, instead of urning for the past. Transition is difficult because it makes us re write the story that we tell ourselves. As humans we …
Why Denial is not working for you
“Denial does not change reality for everyone else. Only for the one denying and those who are foolish enough to believe the fantasy.”~ Elle Casey Denial is an interesting defense mechanism. It helps us to survive things that are too difficult for our psyche to handle and it helps us push through. The only problem with using denial as a …
You are not your story
Holding on is believing that there’s a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future. —Daphne Rose Kingma Spring is time of new growth, transformation, and change. Why not use this time to transform old thoughts. The story that we tell ourselves about our lives sets the frame for how we view our lives. Here are five ways to …
How shame holds us back
Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. ~Brene Brown According to the research of Brene Brown all humans experience shame. The psychologist Rick Hanson, reports that shame is a primal emotion, one of the first that we experience as children. So if this is the case why does …
How to stop self sabotaging
“Resistance by definition is self-sabotage.” ~Steven Pressfield Many people have problems with being their own worst enemies. When in becomes a pattern of unhealthy behaviors, unfulfilled dreams, broken relationships and friendships it is time to find ways to use different strategies with others. People who have patterns of self sabotaging usually have problems with worthiness, feeling comfortable in the status quo and fear …
How to Survive a Breakup
“It is only with true love and compassion that we can begin to mend what is broken in the world. It is these two blessed things that can begin to heal all broken hearts.” ~Steve Maraboli I had a friend once tell me when I was going through a painful breakup that I just needed to get a theme song. This …
Learning to tame your temper
“I lost my temper today. Fuck it. Whoever finds it can keep it.” ― Jarod Kintz We all have a hard time sometimes and can become angry. It is when it becomes a pattern of relating to others that it can cause problems in our relationships. So here are 5 ways that you can work on reducing your temper. 1) …
How to have needs without being needy.
“You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you might find, you get what you need.” ~Mick Jagger Have you ever caught yourself stating that a person is too “needy” or someone is acting to “needy”? What exactly does it mean to be too needy? Urban dictionary.com defines being needy as: “Requiring attention beyond what is normative. …
How to communicate more effectively
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~ George Bernard Shaw Effective communication is imperative in any relationship, whether is is a romantic, work, family or friends. When your wires get crossed and ideas are not conveyed properly, this is when negative emotions begin. But there is a way to speak peacefully to one …
Five ways to improve your emotional intelligence
“There is no weakness in being able to love fully. It takes courage, tenacity, and an emotional intelligence that most people are incapable of.” ~Alafia Stewart So you may be saying what is emotional intelligence, and how can it help me? The idea of emotional intelligence was developed by the American psychologist, Daniel Goleman. There are 5 basic principles of emotional …
