When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. ~Wayne Dyer Most people are guilty of making snap judgements about people. We are actually instinctually wired to keep ourselves safe this way of relating is left over from when we had to fear getting eaten by large mammals. But in today’s time this way of relating is …
The Freedom of Letting Go of Control
“The day I understood everything, was the day I stopped trying to figure everything out. The day I knew peace was the day I let everything go.” ~C. JoyBell C. If you feel challenged with releasing control I understand, I am a recovering addict of control as well. To tell you honestly, for most of my adult life I was …
Your Ego is not your Amigo, learning how to keep your ego in check
“The Ego, however, is not who you really are. The ego is your self-image; it is your social mask; it is the role you are playing. Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control, and it is sustained by power, because it lives in fear.” ― Deepak Chopra Walking down the street about a year ago I saw a man …
How to avoid an emotional hangover
Emotions are contagious. We’ve all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad. ~Daniel Goleman The other day I was so drained after work because so many dramatic things had happened, I listened to and engaged in …
How to practice humility with out feeling humiliated
True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. ~C.S. Lewis A few weeks ago I was talking about humility with a client. She was having difficulty grasping the concept so I decided to look up the definition. This is the definition I found from google: noun a modest or low view of one’s own …
How to deal with people who push your buttons
Nothing in the world can bother you as much as your own mind, I tell you. In fact, others seem to be bothering you, but it is not others, it is your own mind. ~ Sri Sri Ravi Shankar We all have those people in our lives that push our buttons. The universe has put these people in our lives …
Drained by drama? 4 tips to stop it, before it starts
I recently had a coworker say to me, “Drama just seems to follow me around. I don’t want to be a part of it, but it flocks to me. I am tired of being drained by it.” We talked some more and what we figured out is that she was addicted to fixing situations, that the drama made her feel …
The art of learning to say no
No is a complete sentence. ~Anonymous Do you say “yes” to things before thinking about it and then end up resenting that you made that decision or totally flaking, because you have spread yourself too thin? If you have any issues with people pleasing, being overly scheduled or drawing boundaries like many of us do, this article is for you. …
How to Stop Being a Perfectionist
So you have admitted that you have problems with being a perfectionist, Congrats! You are on your way to recovering from this crippling way of coping in the world. How do I know about being a perfectionist? Because personally I am a recovering from perfectionism. I come from a long line of perfectionists but I realized that living this way was …
The Dangers of Denial
“Denial is not just a river in egypt.” ~ Mark Twain Okay, now that I have that kitschy quote out of the way lets get the 411 about denial: Denial it is a defense mechanism that is close cousins with repression. It keeps one safe and unaware of what is actually going on in our life. The wonderful thing about denial is …
